With the onset of new urban society, more and more woman are being a part of bread winner of the family. Most of the working woman are excelling in their chosen field and coming up with flying colors. Like a man, woman also have aspiration of getting a promotion, a big paycheck, climbing up the corporate ladder or going for higher studies, etc..
In India these culture change has come just within last 15-20 years. And this change has created a lot of confusing in the family setup that was going on for years. Specially in the mind of a working woman...
As much as I have seen of the world and friends around me, the new age husband is normally very supportive of wife's career, her aspiration, her career goals etc. And if there is a good understanding between the two, there are not much ego clashes and the minor issues like dividing the house work, cooking, etc get sorted out pretty easily (with bit of fighting, then making up and then nagging, etc :)
The confusion in this setup arises when the couple plans to start a family. During this time, the wife is faced with a big question of whether to continue with the job or leave it to take care of the kid. As a working woman, I can understand that this is not as easy decision.
On one hand, its a job which normally defines your identity (in some way.. ). Its a way of validating yourself and your ego that you are doing something worthwhile... being in a job gives a feeling of independence. Being in job, just doesn't mean to bring back the paycheck home... there is a lot more factors involved in it than just money... And thus its not very easy to give up your job..
And then on the other hand, if you continue with the job, who will take care of the kid??.. Is it ok to keep the your child with some maid and then keep thinking how your child will be treated by her... Is it worth to deprive your child of the motherly love and also deprive yourself of being in touch with all the growing up process of your kid...
I am very surely, all the working mother would be going through this dilemma.. And offcourse they would take the best decision for their family and their kid...
But still this question lingers in my mind now and then... And I still don't know the answer yet... But I am very sure when the time comes for me, things will get sorted out own their own...
PS: To all those who know me personally, please don't get the wrong impression... I do not have any good new...:) This is just a question that keep coming to my mind now and then.. And so this post
Good tht u put the disclaimer at the end :) I was supposed to congratulate u ;)
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